Stories I only tell my friends: The Power Of Belief-System

January 3, 2013

“The Lost Puppet”

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Motivation Empowerment – introduction
Who is pulling your strings? Who is in control of your life and your destiny? Do you have a clear picture of where you are and where you are going or are you blinded and walking around in a daze?

If you are curious enough and look around you, it won’t take much to come to the conclusion that most people are living like lost puppets. They have lost all control of their lives and live according to what circumstance dictates.

Even sadder is the fact that most have resigned themselves to the situation and see no way out of the drudgery, meaninglessness and emptiness of their lives. There are perhaps the fortunate ones, who realize that something is wrong. The more unfortunate do not even realize the futility of their existence.

Motivation Empowerment – the lost puppet
“Lost puppets” is a sad, but true way to describe such people. They are “lost” because they are either reading the wrong road map of life or they are using the correct map but going in the wrong direction. They are “puppets” because they are not in the driver’s seat! Someone else is pulling the strings.

If you want to get around in Lusaka you will use a map of Lusaka and not one of New York. So to get around in life you need to have the correct road map of life. This road map represents your beliefs and attitudes. Your beliefs and attitudes have to be consistent with the truth.

Motivation Empowerment – get the right knowledge
It is your responsibility to get the correct knowledge so you can have the correct road map of life. Ignorance is no defense. Ignorance will kill you.

The old saying that “what you don’t know won’t hurt you” is not true. What you don’t know can and will hurt you. If you don’t know that you can be wealthy, you will live below your capabilities. If you don’t know that life can and should be enjoyed, you will spend your days in misery.

If you don’t know that you too can be great, you will die in mediocrity and all we will know about you is what school you went to and who you worked for. That is what is said at most funerals and I often ask myself: “is there nothing more that could be said about this person’s life? Did their being in this world make no difference to anyone else’s life?”

W.W. Ziege sums up the issue of our road map well when he says: “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help with man with the wrong mental attitude.”

Motivation Empowerment – get in the driver’s seat
Moving on to the second point, you need to be in the driver’s seat of your life. You are? Are you sure? A lot of us have given our lives over to others without even realizing it. We let our careers or jobs dictate what we do and when we do it.

Most times it is our parents, spouses, friends or neighbours that determine what we do with our lives. We have given them power over our lives because we do not know what we personally want. The trouble is, neither do they. They are likely to be lost puppets as well.

The truth is that while you are not totally responsible for what does and doesn’t happen to you, you are responsible for how you respond to what happens to you. The truth also involves acknowledging that there are some things that are within your control and others that you cannot do anything about. If you focus your time and energy on the things you can change and stop worrying about the things you cannot change, your life will improve immeasurably.

Motivation Empowerment – what do you want, really?
Have you ever sat down and written clearly what you want your life to be? Have you designed your ideal life? You are not in control until you firmly and clearly write down what you want your life to be. If not, you are a passenger in your own life and a wisher.

There is a big difference between wishing and being a dreamer. Dreamers design their ideal life and work to achieve it everyday. They don’t believe in chance or luck. Wishers wait on a genii to grant their three wishes all their lives. The problem is, if the genii were to ever show up they still wouldn’t know what to wish for!

Motivation Empowerment – it’s not up to the government
Contrary to popular Zambian belief, the government is not responsible for all the problems in your life. Most of all, it is not responsible for how your life turns out. I hear so many people requesting government to do something about everything from the flooding in their own back yards to telling them how they should dress!

I cannot blame such people for seeing things that way. It is so typical of human nature to look outside of ourselves when faced with challenges and shortcomings. But, not only is the problem within us, the miracle is that the solution also lies within us.

If you are going to remember anything about this article it should be this: you are in total control of your life. The only person you can truly blame for your failures is you. Cut off those puppet strings and take charge. If you do not exercise that control then you have given it over to someone or something else whether by choice or by default.

Allow me to borrow a military term which states: “there is no blank file.” If a soldier leaves the formation either on parade or in battle someone else comes and takes over that position, it cannot be left blank. So it is with your life. The decisions you do not make are made for you.

It may seem hard to take full responsibility for your life, but ultimately you will find it is the single most empowering decision you will ever make. If you decide not to blame others for your failures and not to look to others for your successes, you will start to achieve great things. You will take back your power over your own life.

Motivation Empowerment – conclusion
Mark Victor Hansen concludes: “You control your future, your destiny. What you think about comes about. By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in motion the process of becoming the person you most want to be. Put your future in good hands: your own.”

You are all you can be. Go on and be it!

“The Power to Create”

Motivation concepts – introduction
Are you living the life you really want to live? Do you know exactly what the kind of life you would want to live is? Do you realize that you have the power to create your life?

More likely than not, your answer to the first question is “no” and to the second question your answer is “yes”. I would challenge you however and say that it is more probable that you are not living the life you want and that, in actual fact, you have only a vague idea what kind of life you really want.

In 97% of cases I would be right because it has been shown time and again that only 3% of any given population will excel in any given circumstances. Part of the reason for this is that only a handful of people actually take the time to plan and create their ideal life.

Motivation concepts – the error of our ways
It often strikes me as strange how many of us are so organized and diligent when it comes to studying at school or performing well at work, yet we are so terrible at excelling at the most important thing of all – our lives!

Let me give you an example. Most of us know the value of planning at our work places. In fact, we are probably very good at it and maybe even take the lead in planning at work. We make plans as to what we want to achieve during a certain period, we analyse our strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats; we make strategic plans and implementation plans and budgets and a lot of other things. It’s tedious work at times, but we do it anyway because we know that without these plans our companies or organizations would fail to achieve good results.

Then we knock off and go home and, unfortunately, leave our brains at work. Somehow, what we do at work doesn’t seem to apply any more. We just lay back and hope for a better life to magically appear. No plans. No timeframes. No budgets. No targets. No written goals.

It is no wonder so many are brilliant at their careers and yet miserable failures when it comes to their personal lives. We do not apply our knowledge and expertise to our own lives.

Motivation concepts – pay attention to your life
You must plan your life with much more care and attention than you would plan your business and your work. Stop living by waiting on chance and luck to make you happy, rich or healthy. If most of us put just half the effort we put into our jobs into planning our lives we would be amazed at the difference that would make. You can take that first step of creating the life you want right now:

Motivation concepts – thoughts are things
How? You must create it in your mind. Mohandas K. Ghandi said very truthfully that “a man is but a product of his thoughts; what he thinks, that he becomes.”

Imagine for a moment that you have lost your memory. You have forgotten who you are and everything you have or don’t have. You know nothing about yourself. You now have a great opportunity to recreate yourself!

Money is no object. You have all the resources you need at your disposal. There are no restrictions. You can make your new life whatever you want it to be.

Who are you? What do you do? Where do you live? What car do you drive? What clothes do you wear? Who are your friends? How do you spend your time? What is your purpose in life? In whose life are you making a difference?

Create a detailed picture in your mind of what you want to be. Let your imagination go wild. Don’t hold back anything. Don’t regard anything as impossible. Just fill your mind with all the possibilities. Don’t be vague about it, be specific.

If you did this simple exercise you should be feeling very excited right now. As lunatic as it may sound, the truth is you are free to create the life you want at any time you choose to. The power to create has been yours all along. Here is one little secret though: write it down.

Motivation concepts – write it down
Writing this mental picture of who you want to be is important because writing things down gives power and permanence to your thoughts. You can refer to what you’ve written and modify it until you have perfected the vision.

Writing it down will also help you when it comes to remembering the vision for your life. As you read it everyday it will become imprinted on your mind until you will be able to think and say it without referring to the written version.

Then and only then will it become a part of you. This vision will completely take over your mind. Once that happens, you’ll find ways to achieve what you’ve thought and your environment will be forced to align itself with this new found vision.

Motivation concepts – today is all you have
One thing is for sure. The past is dead and gone. We can’t go back there. The future is the only thing we have control over. Right here and right now is the only time we have that control.

Don’t put it off till tomorrow, start right now to create the life you want in your mind and don’t forget to write it down. Think about it every day and every waking hour until it becomes a part of you.

Why should you bother? Because, as Earl Nightingale put it, “everyday we put in place actions and ideas that will determine the shape and substance of our lives.”

Motivation concepts – conclusion
Someone sent me this quote the other day: “We build our lives, a day at a time, often putting less than our best into the building. Then with a shock we realize we have to live in the house we have built.” How true. How sad.

Build your life with the care and effort it deserves. Don’t live your life with no direction and no hope. You can create that perfect life. You can dream big, and your dreams can come true.

You are all you can be…go on and be it!

“The Sky Has Never Been The Limit”

Motivation myth- introduction
What exactly are you capable of achieving? What is a realistic expectation for your life and what constitutes sheer madness? Is there a limit to how high you should aim?

The simple answer to these questions is simply that you are capable of achieving anything you set your mind to; if you can think it, then it’s a realistic expectation; and you can aim as high as you want.

Motivation myth- the sky has never been the limit
We have probably all heard the “wise” saying: “the sky is the limit.” This would seem to have a lot of wisdom in it at first glance. However, it implies that man’s potential has a limit when in actual fact, man’s potential is limitless. Let’s examine what exactly your potential as a human being is.

Firstly, let’s define potential. Potential is all that you can be, but have not yet become. It is all you can accomplish, but have not yet accomplished. It is unexposed or dormant ability.

This means that the ability to become and to do is already there. It just hasn’t been brought out and utilized.

Consider a fertilized human egg (zygote). That single cell has the ability to form every part of the human body. Everything from your brain to your toenails can be formed by that single cell. It has unlimited potential.

Motivation myth- your potential is limitless
Similarly, the mind of man has unlimited potential. It has the limitless ability to create. Man has been on earth for thousands of years, yet we are still making new discoveries today and creating new things everyday. We cannot exhaust the creative power of our minds.

The functioning of our minds remains, for the most part, a mystery even to modern day science. But even though we do not understand it’s functioning, we cannot deny its power.

Motivation myth- you have the power within
Your most powerful asset is your mind. The answer to the question ‘what is a realistic goal and what is achievable’ is entirely up to you. If your mind can accept that something is achievable, it will find a way to attain that thing.

“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” These are the immortal words of Napoleon Hill, a man who truly understood that “there are no limitations to the mind except those we acknowledge.”

Your possibilities are limited only by your thinking. What may be a limit for one person is a walk in the park for another. It’s all in the mindset.

Your potential as a human being, then, is unlimited. You have within you the ability to become and to achieve anything you want. Now that you understand that your potential is limitless, your next challenge is to answer the question: what do you want out of life?

Motivation myth- think of the possibilities
Before you start scratching your head and making excuses, let me help you a little. If money, education, social status and so on, were no hindrance what would you want out of life? If all the knowledge and wealth in the world were at your disposal what would you want to be and to do?

Even with all the resources at your disposal, it is very likely that you would still struggle to come up with 3 goals that you are absolutely passionate about and to which you would dedicate every waking hour. Therein lies the problem – it is not your possibilities that are limited, it is your thinking!

Your vision is limited only by you. The problem is that you don’t know what you should be. It’s not your fault, really: your education has messed you up. It has taken your boundless potential and shrunk it and shaped it into a narrow title. You are a “nurse”, or “accountant” or “driver”.

It doesn’t matter what title has been placed on you, you need to break free from it. You are not what you do. See yourself as the truly capable human being that you are.

Motivation myth- cultivate the right mindset
This requires that you look deep within and examine your mindset. Are there things you have accepted simply because everyone else seems to accept them? Have you accepted society’s standards as your own?

A word of caution: society celebrates mediocrity. Ordinary people do not like it when others get ahead. It only exposes their lack of vision and motivation. That is why mediocrity is often embraced and excellence is shunned. Being ordinary is acceptable.

If you want more, there is something wrong with you.If something is widely accepted and everyone is doing it, it is probably better for you as a dreamer not to do it. If you want to get what everyone else is getting, do what everyone else is doing.

It is not difficult to see the results others are getting from what they are doing. The good news is you don’t have to do what they are doing. Find your own way. Utilise the potential within you.

Dig out your potential like a prospector digs for oil. The oil has always been there just waiting to be tapped. But if no one bothered to search for it and bring it to the surface it would just remain there dormant, wasting and useless.

So it is with your potential. If you do not challenge yourself to grow beyond your present circumstances, it will just waste away and be totally useless not only to you, but to the rest of humanity.

Motivation myth- conclusion
Do not rob this country of such a great resource as yourself. Utilise your potential. Be all that you can be so that when you die, you will have utilized every single drop of your being.

Marianne Williamson said – “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”

You are all you can be. Go on and be it.

“To All The Dreamers Out There…”

Motivation to achieve success – “To all the dreamers out there”

Turn off the T.V. Turn down the volume on your radio. Block out all noise. Be quiet and listen. Listen for just five minutes. I don’t want you to pay attention for my sake, but for yours. Are you not worth five minutes of your own time?

Do you have a deep desire to achieve something great? Do you want to live a more satisfying life? Can you see yourself being happy and successful in every way? Do you believe in your own potential and that here is much more to you than meets the eye?

If so, you are a dreamer. This article is dedicated to you. Right now you are the most important person around. If you had been the only person to ever read this article, I would still have written it, just for you. You are that special.

Motivation to achieve success – what is a dreamer?

But before we go any further, let me qualify what a dreamer is because people often don’t appreciate being called dreamers. In-fact, it’s almost an insult to call someone a dreamer these days. It’s associated with having your head in the clouds and not being realistic. So let me explain.

A dreamer is a person who is not afraid to challenge society’s norms and not afraid to tread their own path rather than following the well-trodden path. A dreamer is someone who is always willing to take a chance and always asks why before doing something that others are doing blindly. A dreamer is a person who has a great futuristic picture which they work to achieve at all costs. Dreamers are world changers.

Dreamers chart their own course and destiny. Dreamers are always striving to be the person they were meant to be and are not afraid to be different. I believe every one of us is born unique in every way, but over the years we work very hard to become like everyone else.

Motivation to achieve success – Don’t follow the crowd
Society’s commonsense tells us that that is the way to go. Unfortunately, commonsense is not always good-sense. It’s just common. If you are a dreamer you cannot afford to work on society’s assumptions and standards. You have to be unique.

For instance, a lot of people have spent anything from 15 to 20 years getting an education so they can have that perfect job and earn a huge salary. Unfortunately for most, the perfect job and the huge earnings never materialize. They only have the long hard years of work and loads of papers with unpronounceable names to show for it.

Most of them have lost touch with the very people they are working so hard to provide for – their husband, wife and children, all because of having to “work hard” for a living. Yet few ask themselves if there is a better way. They blindly follow what they’ve always been taught.

Motivation to achieve success – chart your own course
I am here to tell you that there is another way. It’s not for everyone. It’s not the only way. It’s not the easier way. Actually, it is more likely to be the harder way. But I guarantee you it is the best way. It is simply this – follow your dreams. If you can think it, you can have it.

Following your dreams, however, is a process and comes at a price. What is the process and what is the price to be paid? Be patient. All will be revealed. Patience, by the way is part of it. Get-rich-quick and easy success schemes don’t last.

Motivation to achieve success – What’s in store?
Over the coming weeks I will talk about the characteristics of a dreamer and some of the things you absolutely must do if you want to live the life you deserve to live. Some of them you may already know and others will be new. Whatever the case, you will pick up a number of useful ideas that may just make the difference between living in mediocrity and living a fulfilled life.

Brian Tracy states that “all successful men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.”

If you are not a dreamer I urge you to watch this space every week. It may shed light into the darkness in your life. Together, we can find answers to some of life’s questions, but YOU have to do the searching.

Motivation to achieve success – I can help”
I have struggled with and continue to struggle with many of life’s questions myself. These struggles have led me to some startling and amazing discoveries about human potential, achievement, motivation, success and living your dreams.

I have a curiosity about life and see lessons on success and achievement in the most ordinary of events or places. I want to share what I have learnt with you. I can’t promise you that you will achieve your dreams after reading my articles – that is entirely up to you and no one else. However, what I will share with you will immensely help you in your desire to live the life you want and deserve.

It is a marvel to think what would happen to Zambia if the dreamers woke up and did something about their dreams. This country would never be the same. But there is hope and it starts with each and every one of us making a difference in our own lives. You have no idea what impact a single person’s dream can have on an entire nation.

Motivation to achieve success – conclusion
I hope your dream will come to life and make a positive contribution to the lives of the people of this beautiful country. You can make all the difference and, if you are a dreamer, I know you are not waiting for someone else to do it. You do it!

Sadly but true, and in the words of Myles Munroe – “The poorest man in the world is the man without a dream. The most frustrated man in the world is the man with a dream that never becomes reality.”

A Little Black Pen

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